Cowboys Are Good, Drummers Are Bad. Right?
Some friends and I watched a group of people that we respected behave in a way that left us shaking our heads in dismay. We saw a not very pretty side to people we thought highly of. It wasn’t Lindsey Lohan or Tiger Woods bad but would have definitely been tabloid fodder in Hollywood . They are who they are and they did what they did. That isn’t the problem. It only nominally affected me and the rest is, frankly, none of my business. The problem is how I feel about them and myself now. It’s left a dark spot on my heart. I tried forgiveness, love, looking at it from their perspective. Forgiveness and love are handy tools but they are not the Mr. Clean Magic Eraser I’m so fond of, at least not in this case. It’s time to stop being dismayed and take a loving and unflinching look at my self and my role in the ill feelings I’m harboring. Most of the time the feelings we have about someone say more about us than...